Therapy is Gay

How Therapy Harms Men

“The thumos in Homer is the breath, which in turn is the moist, warm vapour arising from the blood concentrated in both heart and lungs. It is a physical thing with spiritual dimensions, the stuff of consciousness, passions and thought. It is perhaps best viewed as the life force, and from it stem fierceness and energy (menos), boldness and courage (tharsos) and anger (cholos).”

As social structures crumble under the weight of individualism, therapy has become a way for people to adapt to the inevitable psychic malaise of modern society. For all of human history, it is man who has suffered more than woman as he shields her from the vicissitudes of battle, bloodshed, storms and hardship, at least, as much as he is able. This is the divine duty of man, as it is a woman’s to protect the child like the inner petals of a flower that protect the seed. Today, man suffers more than woman in a modern society that wishes to emasculate him. If the men are emasculated, they are less able to protect women, ultimately leaving the children vulnerable. It is always, afterall, about the children.

It has become a catchphrase of modern western society that “therapy” is an important element of one’s psychic hygiene, as dental cleanings are for our teeth and blood tests for our physical health. Someone who has poor mental health is like someone who has bad teeth, they just haven’t visited their designated professional hygienist in a long time! How embarrassing. In modern society, however, only the gay man, unimposing and unthreatening to the regime, can be tolerated. Only the gay man is polite enough to participate in society: a castrated, house-broken, dog that will move to the commands of the master without reproach. The state recruits the women via feminism to participate in his castration and then when she suffers, as all women do, in the absence of a real man, the state will give her soul-numbing medications to make her forget about her despair.

Therapy purports to help people who suffer from trauma to process it in a logical and productive way. There exist many different types, and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is lauded as the most “scientifically validated” way of addressing people’s spiritual issues. Of course, the “scientific validation process” in question is always a version of a double-blind placebo controlled trial, as if there can be a placebo for spiritual malaise, a controlled way of measuring the deep suffering of the soul, an objective measure for the movements of the psyche. 

Cognitive Behaviour Therapy is based on Stoic philosophy that focuses the patient on the controllable elements of each situation so that they can recover an internal locus of control in their lives. An internal locus of control is the confidence that one has control over one’s environment and is able to manage problems in a reasonable way. At a surface level, this strategy is a sound reasonable set of problem-solving skills one should learn. At a deeper level, these mainstream normies can’t be trusted.

NC. Wyeth illustration for the book “The Boy’s King”

Every person in the world faces problems and suffering in life. Men and women deal with these difficult life events in different ways. Women need to talk about their issues whereas men do not benefit as much from this. Men benefit from attacking the problem they are facing directly and they benefit from action. No amount of talking will help a man through a depressive episode as much as getting a job that makes him get out of bed every morning, or learning a skill that allows him to see improvement every day. Women crave the womb of social circles; men crave the feeling of competency. 

Normie westerners reject natural sexual dimorphism in human beings and as such, punish men for not behaving like women. Men who do not cry are seen, for example, as defective or unable to process their emotions. “Men can cry too!” campaigns have revealed many a loser man who would rather publicly emasculate himself with bitch tears than retain an ounce of masculinity. Men who do not talk about their feelings endlessly with their friends and family are considered cold or emotionally detached, when in fact, they are simply behaving like men and not women. Men process emotions differently and should not be punished or shamed for this.

There is an incredible mental health crisis among modern western men today. The suicide rate for men is a tragic reminder of the ways in which modern society fails men. However, lack of tHeRaPy is not the cause for this crisis as societies in which the word therapy does not exist, such as Thailand, and the Amish communities have much happier men. The real cause for this psychic malaise is the fact that men are consistently deprived of their desire to fulfil their thymos: the desire to conquer, win and succeed. This thymotic rage is numbed by porn addictions that steal their libido, the sexual energy inherent to all conquest. It is numbed by video game addiction that steals their time, intelligence and energy into false trophies made of pixels on a screen. It is stolen by universities and schools that trap them in years of useless education so that they can continue to do useless jobs that they know, deep down, do not benefit society. A man’s thymos is stolen with every fitted sheet he folds and every diaper that he changes. It is stolen when a man is punished for not being a woman.

There is an argument that therapy offers a person who is completely isolated in the world, someone they can talk to when they need advice about life or feel lost. Even men need confidants, guides and friends with whom they can discuss their problems. However, the people who become therapists are trained by institutions that hate masculinity and perceive any expression of it as toxic. The desire to win, to be excellent and to be disgusted by failure, are all viewed by modern therapists as toxic qualities. 

For example, porn consumption is not recognized as devastatingly harmful behaviour by mainstream psychiatry and psychology. Marijuana consumption is often excused as an innocuous sleep aid by the mainstream, despite the mounting research that reveals its toxicity to the body and mind. They encourage plant based diets, which are known to cause psychological disease because they cause a deficiency in neurotransmitters and hormone production. Perhaps in a world where there could be some guarantee that a therapist would not be a brainwashed westerner, it may be possible to argue that therapy is useful to some people. For now, it is better not to make a situation worse than to leave it as it is. 

Every hero that a man may have once revered for his courage, competence and spirit, is not recast as an evil patriarchal oppressor. A man’s undeniable, natural, admiration for this type of formidable man thus transforms into a guilt he must repent at this secular confessional called therapy. His natural desire to dominate and lead women rather than be their equal in every way, also becomes a source of guilt. He feels ashamed for his natural instincts by a society that fundamentally understands that Real Men are a threat to technocratic hegemony. Real Men, if they develop the habit of standing up for themselves, not being able to fight for what they know is the truth deep down, are a danger to any regime that wishes to abuse its subjects for profit.

Therapy as a secular form of confession is another foolish comparison to make because secular confession lacks a crucial component of the religious ritual: a belief in God which leads to absolution. If there is no moral structure to guide a man about right or wrong, and remind him of his duties both to himself and to others, then every decision is made from hedonism. “Does this decision bring me more net pleasure?” He asks. And yet the epicurean experiment leads him to greater and greater darkness.

He craves honour, nobility and duty, rather than ever increasing intensities and varieties of material pleasure. Secular therapy is fundamentally materialistic and does not understand the spiritual needs of a person and therefore the spiritual origins of psychological malaise. Secular explanations for “mental health issues” blame chemical imbalances for issues as if these are causal factors, never stopping to question what causes these imbalances to arise at all.

Therapy encourages both men and women to adopt a diseased state as an identity. It tells them that they are permanently altered by some “traumatic” moment in their life or childhood that they will forever be fixing. A young person desperately craving an identity is given one by a psychologist and it not only becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, it becomes something he subconsciously fights against losing by any means necessary. They gain an ever increasing list of jargon like “narcissist” “love languages” “trauma” “inner-child” and it enmeshes them in a world that is ever more occluded from their nature. They begin to identify by “myers briggs” types and “attachment styles” which are words invented by idle women who couldn’t get into real science courses. All these words are completely alien to a sane society in which men and women do not reject their natures at every turn of life.

If you want to see how normal societies with no mental health issues function, travel to a third world country in the east and spend time with a family there. You will see how modern westerners make mountains out of mole-hills and destroy their lives in the process. One of the main qualities such societies have is that men have friends and social circles that exclude women. Comradery and friendship among men, unhindered or infiltrated by women, is a crucial contributor to men’s spiritual well being. I resist the term “mental health” because it assumes that psychological malaise is due to a simple problem of the brain rather than due to matters of the heart, spirit and body.

In healthy societies, men have gained some useful skill that can contribute to society by the time they are eighteen years old. The modern school structure does not permit the average boy to undertake such an education unless he aberrates from the norm in serious ways. The ordinary boy is forced to play sports with girls where he must diminish his power and speed in order to play “fairly” with the girls. The ordinary boy is not permitted to undertake adventures and quests where he might find himself worthy enough against a formidable challenge, and emerge on the other side as a man. The lack of rites of passage have been addressed by many writers in other places. Therapy is an attempt to mitigate the diseases created by modern society, but like all medications, its side effects are often worse than the disease itself. A modern man at unease with the world, is a man who is healthy. The degree to which he continues to resist it, is the degree to which his thymos is still alive.

Take heart, dear men, for your ancestors have fought worse foes and won. This modern society is your dragon and it wants you to fall asleep so that you forget to fight. Do not lay down your sword and shield. Do not lose heart. When you succeed against it, and build a fulfilling and free life anyway, you will deserve the glory you will win.