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Nov 24, 2022Liked by Megha Lillywhite

"they do not splinter at ever inevitable moment of friction."

they do not splinter at THE ever inevitable moment of friction.

OR

they do not splinter at everY inevitable moment of friction.

OR ?????

( I think you owe me a pint by now - ED )

There is a lot of moral rot in the average modern man too sadly.

I think it depends on the girl group and whether they are organised with a particular mission or just some random collection of girls that have been flung together by happenstance.

Most men are guilty of group think. When you're an outlier it seems like everyone but you is in some sort of cult, and no one likes you pointing it out, humans are weird.

Women, have to a large extent in the West, replaced men with government. It's a terribly sad state of affairs.

I don't think it requires a vast amount of moral fortitude, one just has to realise that being ostracized from other participants in this strange mouse utopia / Matrix hybrid is not really a big deal.

Integrity is currently in short supply globally, those with it are like drops of water in a desert of conformity and decay. Unfortunately one has to be cognisant of reality, one doesn't want to end up like David Kelly if one can avoid it.

The climate change initiatives help those with windmills and solar panels to sell, it helps with politicians ability to steal more from the populace in the form of taxes and it helps them take away our natural rights as people.

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I commend your pedantry, as far as it goes. As conservatives we should uphold grammar and summon necessary integrity to withstand the shaming whinges of illiterates. However, the pot shouldn't be calling the kettle black. And it is w/ equal parts pedantic glee and collegial regret that I need to inform you that your interesting rejoinder contains several run-on sentences. You seem to believe commas will suffice to separate completed thoughts. Sometimes they may, not usually. Periods, colons and dashes provide more substantial, dramatic pauses.

Agreed that men are equally guilty of hive-mindedness. But I think we achieve it less overtly. One doesn't want to come off like a badgering Karen - not manly. However, I do think it's a big deal to be ostracized from a group. It was for me when I ultimately left the Left.

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Nov 25, 2022Liked by Megha Lillywhite

The corrections are meant as a running joke. My run on sentences are in no small part due to lack of time as I'm very busy. Thank you for your concern, I will endeavor to hold myself to a higher standard. I never had a group to be ostracised from, that's the thing about being an outlier. Anyway I hope you are feeling better about leaving the left and that the experience has given you a chance to grow.

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You know I always fix the corrections you point out when I see them! Sometimes my own eyes can't see the mistakes even after I've read it over.

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It happens to the best of us, I'm glad you're taking it in the spirit that it is meant.

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It's been my experience that only really exceptional people like to have their grammar questioned. Many will suffer the attention silently. Some will strike back pugnaciously. Few will find it amusing. Still one must embrace one's destiny: the few, the proud, the abominable.

I inherited the remedial propensity from years of Catholic schooling during the Pleistocene, compounded by a stint as a proofreader back when insurance companies still cared about doing business by the book. Then there was an aborted career as a high school English teacher. Maybe throw in an overseas German girlfriend who wanted to improve her English and you've got the makings of a punctilious monster.

Leaving the Left was indeed an intellectual growth experience, but I lost most of my friends and relatives in the process. Living in a blue state, I've become an outlier of course.

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I love the word punctilious and endeavour to use it now, primarily because it sounds so fun!

The hive mind is a well documented phenomenon. I was trying in this essay to explain why the hive mind appears to be so much stronger for female groups than in male ones. There are dozens of good-natured women I know who forego female group friendships because it is just too exhausting to constantly battle the group when your values clash with the norm. (I am one of these).

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Real friends and family accept you for who you are, I hope you find better friends in the future. Perhaps a change of scenery to Florida or Texas might be the balm you are seeking? Or perhaps finding like minds online? Whatever the case I wish you the best of luck.

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"Real friends and family accept you for who you are"

If you read the article she is encouraging women to NOT accept people for who they are. To abandon friends if they support BLM, are pro-choice, even if they support windmills of all things! Relationships are 2 way streets, acceptance has to go both ways.

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"Agreed that men are equally guilty of hive-mindedness. But I think we achieve it less overtly. One doesn't want to come off like a badgering Karen - not manly."

Here in the States we get more "Bobs" than Karens. I don't know how women became the face of the demographic calling the "authorities" over trivial b.s. Park your vehicle for a few days in a perfectly legal spot on a suburban street and a cop will find you and come knocking, all because Bob called, suspicious about a parked car with a valid license plate parked on his street.

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buy yourself a pint you pedant

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Mar 16, 2023Liked by Megha Lillywhite

Excellent post. Very well thought out. In fact, I would argue the whole gender confusion nonsense is happening because of social contagion which women, especially younger ones, are more susceptible to.

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Quite frankly the most relevant & profound ideological observation I've had the pleasure of reading. Exceptionally well composed. Thank you so much for sharing.

I "loled" at thottery...

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Started off logical

Then the internalized misogyny started to show.

Or are you a man?

Yes, please don't be my friend ... lol 😅

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This article is so unfairly harsh to women. Women's adept communication skills are a very positive trait to have. Diplomacy is vastly superior to brute force, both morally and practically. Today, people are too obnoxious and ill-mannered. They don't understand basic etiquette, and fail to grasp the virtue of discretion. Good manners and political correctness have nothing in common, as I see it. Fun article though, thanks for sharing!

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You summed it up beautifully, Megha.

All of this really sums up why the women's liberation movement was a terrible idea and that we ought to repeal the 19th Amendment. With a few exceptions, women are much more prone to political correctness, group think, and the leftist/progressive movement. As you said, the leaders of most leftist/progressive movements are and were women. This includes not only BLM and abortion, but also laws for ban child labour and force compulsory schooling.

Why? Because women have a nurturing tendency that causes them to PUSH such policies, turning government into a parent. Big government/authoritarianism is pushed in the name of safety and compassion which is why women tend to favour mass immigration and diversity.

You are one of the few wise women of this generation; the entire feminist movement is rotten to the core and it was really an agenda constructed by power-hungry elites (Rockefellers) to destroy civilization and society. Women have many natural qualities that make them uniquely suited towards caring for a family and running families, but not towards policy. Their caring tendencies push them to support big governmental causes that are always marketed as for safety, compassion, and for the common good. This includes lockdowns, masks, vaccine mandates, public schooling, mandatory schooling, gun control, and so forth.

Make no mistake, these tendencies have their good. As mothers, women are supposed to be caring for their families (cooking, teaching, education). But in politics, the only role of government is ensuring justice by punishing bad guys (thieves, murderers, rapists, etc) and defending the country from aggression/fraud.

Women are naturally more social creatures and more prone to groupthink. Even through observation, I see that women are more social and more prone to small talk. Given their weaker, more passive nature, women are less likely to have their own opinions. In fact, most political "extremists" or those who are far outside the political norm (fringe) are not surprisingly, men. This includes John Taylor Gatto, Ron Paul, Ludwig von Mises, the Independent Fundamental Baptists, and so forth.

Women, meanwhile tend to favour political correctness. This is why they tend to medicate boys for hyperactivity and masculinity; boys/men by nature are more inclined to oppose political correctness. My two nephews are being rightfully raised to oppose political correctness (as is my daughter). Unfortunately, there are LOTS of women out there (usually single mothers) who push everyone to be politically correct.

Women dominate the teaching and mental health professions, which is why they push their behavioural norms/psychology on everyone else. This is why they push political correctness.

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This ww phenomenal. I love how you clearly broke down the gender dynamics I see clearly displayed all the time online. Brilliant!

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When I was outside of the LA area I saw more couples in their 20s and 30s. When I come back to the LA area, I see a sterile place.

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Yes! So true and so well written! I was in a group like this for many, many years and I got ostracized for not following the narrative of the last few years. I was heartbroken but now I'm free and it's incredible (but also scary at times)

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... and an excellent explanation on why to repeal 19A.

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"The reason that I focused on women rather than men in this essay is that women are far more impressionable by their friends than men are because they have a greater drive to belong, and to be accepted by the group."

Here in the USA men just have less friends than women do. Men report more loneliness. American men tend to depend on their romantic partners for friendship. Without a girlfriend or wife, an American man may find himself with no social life. American men need to start making and keeping friends.

That said, loneliness is something that Americans in general are reporting. "Ditch your girl friends" is not something most of us needs to be hearing at this point in time. If a friend is really causing you a lot of grief and stress, sure, go ahead and ditch her. But some of these reasons, like "my friends are going vegan and I'm not into it" are ridiculous and not reason enough to ditch people who otherwise bring value and joy to my life.

Life is short and can get very lonely. Anyone who is lucky enough to have friends needs to hold on to them -- with gratitude.

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I understand your comment about the loneliness epidemic in the modern west. However I think it is unfair for you to reduce my long treatise into a flippant statement like "ditch your friends if they tell you to be vegan". Rather I point out the insidious systems that exist in female friend groups in particular that coax a woman to give up her values. Of course you can choose to continue to be friends with people you don't agree with on certain things, however, you must be prepared more so for the emotional and psychological assaults that you will have to defend against in order that your values are not changed just to belong. One should not underestimate the power of female peer-pressure and there are a lot of women who have ruined their lives because of it in serious ways. That is not to say that women shouldn't take accountability for their actions, but it is also a form of accountability to create an environment for yourself that is more conducive to your making better decisions.

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Jul 28, 2023·edited Jul 28, 2023

*you misspelled “indictment”, love. ;)

My best college friend and Maid of Honor married a man-baby and together they presided over the “raising” of a girl child turned boy. Interestingly, I was initially supportive with the angle that somehow I could help right her boat if I stood to the side and, in the most Socratic way, help her course correct. As it was more evident that she was drifting Left, the more I said NOTHING. No judgement, just NOTHING. NOTHING because I couldn’t even form the words to tell her how disgusted I was. Eventually, she just went silent from even superficial banter. I was merely raising my own two biological boys into strong MEN and I assume she saw her glaring weakness reflected back at her. She simply evaporated from my life just before she would’ve wished me a happy thirtieth wedding anniversary.

Pearls before swine.

GOOD. RIDDANCE.

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As one ages out of the teens and early 20s, the more shallow, superficial connections tend to naturally drop off as a person grows into their next, very busy adult phase of life. Outside of a major betrayal or encouragement to lead a life of crime, most things can be navigated and negotiated in a genuine friendship.

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Excellent! Lays out what I've long sensed but not known how to communicate.

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Beautifully written!!!

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Thank you for always leaving such encouraging comments!

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